If you think about it, erotic sex isn’t that complicated

If you think about it, erotic sex isn't that complicated. It's supposed to be fun and exciting, but sometimes, when we jump into bed with someone, it's not what it should be. We feel like something is missing. Often, this is because we forget the basics of erotic sex.

 The basics of erotic sex are essential things that you should do or remember every time you have sex. They are essential to making erotic sex tremendous and enjoying a deeper connection with your partner. So what are they?

Nobody can read your mind

 What people want in the bedroom varies from person to person. You might think there is nothing sexier than a woman running her hands up and down your thighs while sucking your penis, while others might find this to be lips tightly surrounding her penis and feel restricted.

 During erotic sex, we need to be able to talk about what we want. Why? Because no one can read minds. You're not going to go into bed with a new person and realize that they seem to know everything that turns you on and makes you orgasm. Discuss it with your partner if you want to keep something in the bedroom. Sure, it might feel awkward, but being open and honest about your desires can clarify things and show your partner that it's okay to talk to you about their desires. It's a win-win situation.

The quality of erotic sex varies

It would be great if you were surprised by erotic sex every time you jumped into bed with someone, whether it's a new partner or someone you've been having sex with for a long time. But that doesn't work.

Erotic sex doesn't always leave you gasping and wondering where all that sex was in your life. And that's okay. If you expect incredibly erotic sex every time, you're setting unrealistic expectations and ridiculously high standards that your partner can't always meet. If you're not satisfied with the erotic sex, you can do as we suggested above and talk about it. It makes a difference.